Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Chetan Bhagat Speech

Becoming One With the World? Speech given at the HT Leadership


 Goodafternoon Ladies and Gentlemen. Thank you for the opportunity to speakat the leadership summit – the first of its kind for me.
Iam no leader. At best, I am a dreamer with  perseverance to make dreamscome true. As I have made my own dreams come true already, I am temptedto think we can make my country’s dreams come true. And that is why Iam here.
Before we become one with the worldwe have to become one with ourselves. If we get our own house in orderwe don’t have to make an effort to be one with the world. The worldwill want to be one with us. Everyone wants to be friends with happy,rich, thriving neighbors. Nobody wants a family festered with disputes.
A lot is wrong in my country. There are toomany differences. The question is not who we blame for this. Thequestion is how do we fix it? Because to do anything great, you have tobecome one first. Two generations ago, our forefathers came together towin us Independence. It isn’t like we didn’t have disputes then.Religion, caste, community have existed for centuries. But Gandhibrought them all together for a greater cause – to get the countryfree.
Today, we have another greater cause. To get India itsrightful place in the world. To see India the way the youngergeneration wants to see it. To make India a prosperous, developedcountry, where not only the spirit of patriotism, but also the standardof living is high. Where anyone with the talent, drive and hard workalone has the ability to make it. Where people don’t ask where you comefrom, but where you are going. We all know that India, as we have alldreamt of that India.
There is a lot required to be done for this, and it doesn’t just startand end  by blaming politicians. For in a democracy, we electthe politicians. If our thinking changes, our voting will change andthe politicians will change. And since I have made a nation that didn’tread, read, do I believe people’s thinking can be changed.
Tome there are 3 main areas where I think we need to change our thinking– leaders included. And I’m not just saying we need to do it because itis morally right/ ethically correct/ or because it sounds nice at aconference. We need to do it as it make sense from an incentives pointof view. These three areas are changing the politics of differences tothe politics of similarity, looking down on elitism and the role ofEnglish.
The first mindset change required is to change the politics of differences to the politics of similarity. I’ve been studying young people in India, not just in big cities but across India for the last five years.
They are the bulk of the population – the bulk of our voter bank. Yet,what they are looking for is not what politicians are pitching.It is not too different from the old school Bollywood where they thinkitem numbers, big budgets and tested formulas work while the biggesthits of the year could be Rock On and Jaane Tu. Yes, times have changed.
Here is what the politicians are pitching – old fashioned patriotism,defending traditions, being the torchbearer of communities, caste andreligion. Here is what the youth wants – better colleges, better jobs,better role models. Compared to the talent pool, the number of goodcollege seats are very limited. Same for good jobs. These wants are thebiggest similarity that we all share. We all want the same things –progress. I see a huge disconnect in the political strategies ofexisting politicians vs. what could work for the new voters.
I think broad based infrastructure and economic development willsatisfy the young generation’s needs. It isn’t an easy goal to attain –but it is the great cause that can unite us. Today a dynamic politicianwho takes this cause can achieve a far greater success than anyregional politician. And the slot is waiting to be taken. 
Another aspect required to convert the politics of differences to thepolitics of similarities is a  strong moderate voice. When someonetries to divide us, people from the same community as the divider haveto stand up against him. If person A is saying Non-Marathis should beattacked, then some Marathis need to stand up and say person A istalking nonsense. If a Muslim commits terrorist attack, other Muslimsshould stand up and condemn it, as Hindus are going to condemn itanyway. This moderate voice is sorely missing but is critical inkeeping the country together. And the youth want to keep it together,as we want to be remembered as the generation who took India forward,not the one that cut India into two dozen pieces.
I hate telling people what to do, but the media does have a role inthis. I agree that media is a business and TRPs matter above anythingelse. However, there are ethics in every business. Doctors make moneyoff sick people, but it doesn’t mean they keep people sick and not healthem. If you find a moderate voice, highlight it as soon as a divisivevoice appears. And don’t take sides, argue or debate it. Don’t validatethe ridiculous. Focus on the greater cause.
The second mindset we need to change is that of elitism.From my early childhood days, to college, to professional and businesslife, and now in the publishing and entertainment circles, I havenoticed a peculiar Indian habit of elitism. Maybe it is hard to achieveanything in India. But the moment any person becomes even moderatelysuccessful, educated, rich, famous, talented or even develops a finetaste, they consider themselves different from the rest. They begin tomove in circles where the common people and their tastes are lookeddown upon. This means a large chunk of our most qualified, experienced, connected and influential people prefer to liveair-conditioned lives in their bubble of like minded people. Naivepeople  who elect stupid politicians – that is the bottomline for allIndian problems, and they want nothing to do with it. But tell me, ifthe thinking of the common people has to be changed, who is going tochange it? What is the point of discussing solutions to Indian problemsif there is no buy-in from the common man? Just because it feels goodto be around like-minded, intelligent people? What is the use of thisintelligence?
If you switch on the TV, seventy percent of thetime you will see Delhi, Mumbai and Bangalore. The reason is the mediais centered in these cities. However, ninety percent of India is notthis. Unless we represent these people properly, how will these peopleever come with us?
Again, I am not making these points as a moral appeal. I thinkunderstanding India and being inclusive makes massive business sense.And trust me, it doesn’t take any coolness or trendiness away from youif you do it right. Look at me, I am the mass-iest English author everinvented in India. My books sell on railway stations and next to attain Big Bazaar. I have an Indian publisher who operates from the bylanesof Darya Ganj. And yet, on orkut the most common words associated withmy name are coolness and awesomeness – tags given by my wonderfulreaders. I think it is cooler to know how people think in the streetsof Indore and Raipur than who’s walking the ramp in South Mumbai. Youmay have planned your next vacation abroad, but have you visited asmall town lately? Have you shown your kids what the real India islike? Don’t you think they will need to know that as they grow up andenter the workforce. Yes, I want people to look down on elitism anddevelop a culture of inclusiveness. If you are educated, educateothers. If you have good taste, improve others taste rather thancalling theirs bad.
The last aspect where we need to change our thinking is our attitude to  English.We have to embrace English like never before. Not England, but English.This point may sound contradictory to my previous one, but I am nottalking about confining English to the classes, but really taking it tothe grassroot level. English and Hindi can co-exist. Hindi is themother and English is the wife. It is possible to love them both. Insmall towns, districts and even villages – we need to spread English.India already has a headstart as so many Indians speak English and wedon’t have to get expat teachers like China does. But we must notconfuse patriotism with the skills one needs to compete in the realworld. If you are making an effort to start a school where noneexisted, why not give the people what will help them most. I can teacha villager geometry and physics in Hindi, but frankly when he goes tolook for a job he is going to find that education useless. English willget him a job. Yes, I know some may say what will happen to Hindi andour traditional cultures. I want to ask these people to pull their kidsout of English medium  schools and then talk. If you go to small towns,English teaching classes are the biggest draw. There is massive demandfor something that will improve people’s lives. I have no special softspot for this language, but the fact is it works in the world of today.And if more English helps spread prosperity evenly across the country,trust me we will preserve our culture a lot better than a nation thatcan barely feed its people.
We are allpassionate about making India better, so we can discuss this forever.But today I wanted to leave you with just three thoughts – politics of similarities, less elitism and more Englishthat we need to build consensus on. If you agree with me, please dowhatever you can in your capacity to make the consensus happen. Itcould be just a discussion with all your friends, or spreading thesethoughts in a broader manner, if you have the means and power to do so.For the fact that we are sitting in this wonderful venue means ourcountry has been kind to us. Let’s see what we can give back to ou rnation.

Sunday, February 6, 2011

Woh college ke din


Woh college ke din ......!!



Kuch baate bhuli hui,
kuch pal beete hue,

Har galti ka ek naya bahana,
aur fir sabki nazar me aana,

Exam ki puri raat jagna,
fir bhi sawal dekhke sar khujana,

Mauka mile to class bunk marna,
fir doston k sath canteen jana

USKI ek jhalak dekhane roj college jana,
usko dekhte dekhte attendance bhul jana,

Har pal hai naya sapna,
aaj jo tute fir bhi hai apna,

Ye college ke din,
In lamho me jindagi jee bhar ke jeena,

Yaad karke in palon ko,
Fir jindagi bhar muskurana!

Thursday, February 3, 2011

LOVE IS FOREVER


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Hello!!!*
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*When you answer the phone,

You say, Hello....
Do you know what is the real meaning of Hello ???

It is the name of a girl !!!

YES !!!

And do you know who is that girl ??

Margaret Hello ...

She was the girlfriend of Graham Bell who invented telephone....
One can forget the name of Graham Bell
But not his girlfriend,
That is love !!!

Maitri


Wednesday, February 2, 2011


Here is a short story with a beautiful message...


Little girl and her father were crossing a bridge.

The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter,
'Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river.'
The little girl said, 'No, Dad. You hold my hand.'
'What's the difference?' Asked the puzzled father.

'There's a big difference,' replied the little girl.

 

'If I hold your hand and something happens to me,
chances are that I may let your hand go.

But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens,

you will never let my hand go.'


In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond.


So hold the hand of the person who loves you rather than expecting them to hold yo
urs...
This message is too short......but carries a lot of Feelings.
 

Did You Know...............





Relatives- and their perceptions


Relation In India Outside India
Mother-in-law A woman capable of making your life miserable. A woman you never fight with, because where else you will find such a dedicated baby sitter for free ?
Husband A boring human species, who listens more to his mother than you, and orders you around to serve him, his parents and siblings. Still boring, but now a useful human species that comes in handy when the house needs to be vacuumed.
Friend A person whose house you can drop into any time of the day or night and you'll always be welcome. A person whom you have to call first to check and make sure he is not busy.
Wife A woman who gives you your underwear and towel when you go to take a shower. A woman who yells at you not to leave tub dirty when you go to take bath.
Son A teenager, who without asking will carry your grocery bags from the market. A teenager, who suddenly remembers he has lot of homework when you start mowing the lawn.
Daughter A lovely doll, who brings tears to your eyes during her marriage. A lovely doll, who brings you to tears long before her marriage.
Father A person you are afraid of, and who is never to be disobeyed . A person to whom you pretend to obey, after all he is the one paying your college tuition.
Indian Engineer A person with a respectable job and earning lots. A person without a secure job, who always dreams one day he will be rich.
Doctor A respectable person with OK income. A money making machine, who has a money spending machine at home called 'doctor's wife'.
Bhangra A vigorous Punjabi festival dance. A dance you do, when you don't know how to dance.
Software Engineer A high-tech guy, always speaks in American accent, always anxious to queue in the consulate visa line. The same hi-tech guy, who does Ganapati Puja everyday, and says 'This is my last year in the US (or whenever)'every year.
A Green Card holder bachelor the guy can't speak Hindi, parents of good looking girls are dying to hook him, wears jacket in summer, says he has a BMW back there. the guy can't speak proper English, wears jacket all the time, works in a Candy store at Manhattan, dreams of owning a BMW

 

It's a Software Engineer's wedding Invitation!
 
FunAndFunOnly (www.mails4u.net.tc)

You must have seen hell lots of wedding cards...

 Same old repeated words etc etb¢
ၬf. always F O B Y

But hey this one is just the opposite..

  Hats off to the couple and mostly to the person who got this wedding card idea and wrote it soo beautifully
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Happy Pongal & Mattu Pongal…..

Create your own video slideshow at animoto.com.

The Orkut Story....

A guy lost his girlfriend in a train accident....

but the gal's name nowhere appeared in the dead list. This guy

grew up n became IT technical architect in his late 20?s, achievement in itself!!.

He hired developers from the whole globe and plan to make a

software where he could search for his gf through the web..

Things went as planned...

n he found her, after losing millions of dollars and 3 long years!!

It was time to shut down the search operation, when the CEO of Google had a

word with this guy n took over this application,

This Software made a whopping 1 billion dollars profit in its first year,

which we today know as ORKUT . 


The guy's name is ORKUT BUYUKKOTEN. Yes its named after him only. Today he

is paid a hefty sum by Google for the things we do like scrapping. He is

expected to b the richest person by 2009.

ORKUT BUYUKKOTEN today has 13 assistants to monitor his scrapbook & 8 to

monitor his friends-list. He gets around 20,000 friend-requests a day &

                                    about 85,000 scraps!!!

Some other Cool Facts abt this guy:

* He gets $12 from Google when every person registers to this website.
* He also gets $10 when you add somebody as a friend.
* He gets $8 when your friend's friend adds you as a friend & gets $6 if anybody adds you as friend in the resulting chain.

* He gets $5 when you scrap somebody & $4 when somebody scraps you.
* He also gets $200 for each photograph you upload on Orkut.
* He gets $2.5 when you add your friend in the crush-list or in the hot-list.
* He gets $2 when you become somebody's fan.
* He gets $1.5 when somebody else becomes your fan.
* He even gets $1 every time you logout of Orkut.
* He gets $0.5 every time you just change your profile-photograph.
* He also gets $0.5 every time you read your friend's scrap-book & $0.5 every time you view your friend's friend-list.

"Moral of the story"?
LOSE U R GIRLFRIEND AND MAKE BILLIONS!!!!

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Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Biography of Lata Mangeshkar

Lata Mangeshkar is the pride of Indian music industry. Blessed with beautiful voice, she is the most well known Indian vocalist. Highly versatile, she has sung in more than 20 languages. To honor and give recognition to her works, Lata Mangeshkar is also known as the Nightingale of India. Well, in this article, we will present you with the biography of Lata Mangeshkar.

Early Life
Lata was born on September 28, 1929 in Indore, Madhya Pradesh as the daughter of Dinanath Mangeshkar, who was a classical singer as well as a theater artist. She was the first child of the Mangeshkar family. She was born in Indore, but brought up in Maharashtra. When she was five years old, she began working as a theater artist in sangeet nataks. She also started taking singing lessons from her father.

Lata sang her maiden cinematic song for the Marathi film Kiti Hasaal (1942). Her father did not like the idea of her daughter singing for the films. So, her song was deleted from the movie. In the year 1942, she lost her father. Due to sudden demise of her father and unsound financial condition of the house, she decided to play small roles in various Hindi and Marathi films. She had to take up the acting assignments, despite the fact that, she was not at all fond of acting. To know the complete life history of Lata Mangeshkar, read on.

Career
In the year 1945, she happened to meet the film producer S. Mukherji through Ghulam Haider. Haider personally wanted her to be given an opportunity to show her singing talent. However, S. Mukherji did not like her voice and said no for giving her a chance to sing for his film. At that point of time, Haider promised himself to establish her singing career in Bollywood. He even said to the producer that, one day will come when all the producers and directors will fall on her feet and beg her to sing in their films.

Lata got her biggest break, when she was given the chance to sing the song "Aayega Aanewaala" for the movie Mahal. The song was a super duper hit. The period of 1950s witnessed tremendous growth in her career. She rose to the top in the list of Bollywood singers. She worked with all the famous composers of that era like Shankar Jaikishan, S D Burman, Naushad, Hemant Kumar, and Salil Chowdhury. Shankar Jaikishan was absolutely stunned by her voice and used her voice for playback singing in almost all the movies that he got.

The period of 1960s made her the queen of Bollywood playback singing. She sang for almost all the prominent composers of the industry and set her foothold in Bollywood. Her songs got an overwhelming response from people all over the country. During the 1970s, Lata recorded songs for Bollywood actress Meena Kumari in the film Pakeezah, which brought her recognition and popularity. She performed tracks for S.D. Burman's films like Prem Pujari, Sharmilee, and Abhimaan.

In late 1970s and early 1980s, Lata Mangeshkar worked with the children of the music composers, with whom she had worked in the past. In the year 1990, Lata established her own production house. Their first and last film "Lekin" was a total flop. Mangeshkar has also sung some non film songs including ghazals with Jagjit Singh. Lata Mangeshkar has also sung for Yash Chopra`s films including Lamhe, Dilwale Dulhaniya Le Jayenge, Darr, Yeh Dillagi, and Dil To Pagal Hai. She sang quite a number of Bengali songs with renowned music directors like Salil Chowdhury and Hemant Kumar.

Trivia
Lata Mangeshkar has composed music and also produced movies under the name of 'Anand Ghan'.
She is very fond of cooking nice dishes.
She always sings barefoot.

Awards Won
Filmfare Awards (1958, 1962, 1965, 1969, 1993 and 1994)
National Awards (1972, 1975 and 1990)
Maharashtra State Award (1966 and 1967)

Other awards
1969 - Padma Bhushan
1974 - Recorded in the Guinness Book of World Records for having sung the maximum number of songs in the world
1989 - Dada Saheb Phalke Award
1993 - Filmfare Lifetime Achievement Award
1996 - Star Screen Lifetime Achievement Award
1997 - Rajiv Gandhi Award
1999 - NTR Award
1999 - Padma Vibhushan
1999 - Zee Cine Award for Lifetime Achievement
2000 - Lifetime Achievement Award by IIFA in London
2001 - Best Playback Singer of the Millennium (female) by Hero Honda and magazine "Stardust"
2001 - Bharat Ratna, India's highest civilian award
2001 - Noorjehan Award
2001 - Maharashtra Ratna

Biography of Indra Nooyi

Indra Krishnamurthy Nooyi born on October 28, 1955, Chennai, Tamil Nadu, India, is the Chairperson and Chief Executive Officer (CEO) of PepsiCo, one of the world’s leading food and beverage companies
America loves baseball, hotdogs, apple pie and ….. which is it: Coke or Pepsi? In the great melting pot of the USA, it seems only fitting that India-born Indra Nooyi, should find herself as the most influential woman behind the red, white and blue logo of the Pepsi company. Indra is ranked #4 on Fortune Magazine’s list of “50 Most Powerful Women in Business”. As President and Chief Financial Officer of PepsiCo, she is the highest ranking Indian born woman in corporate America. She’s helped engineer over $30 billion worth of deals in the past few years and is taking on the challenge of some fierce competition: a newly energized Coca-Cola campaign. So just how did Indra go from a student in Chennai, India to President and CFO of PepsiCo in America?

Nooyi spent 23 years of her life growing up in India. She earned her M.B.A. from the Indian Institute of Management in Calcutta and worked only two years in India before coming to the United States to attend Yale Science of Management (Yale SOM), where she earned her Master’s degree in public and private managemet. Upon graduation, she went to work for Boston Consulting Group in 1980 and then joined Motorola as vice-president of corporate planning and strategy in 1986. Just 4 years later in 1990, she climbed aboard Asian Brown Boveri as vice president. 1994 marked a banner year for Indra when she went to work for the corporate giant, PepsiCo. She has been instrumental in taking the company to new heights. She played an key role in the company’s merger with Quaker Oats and was instrumental in starting the company’s fast food chains in 1997.

Indra attributes her success to many factors: upbringing, motivation, great employees and lots of hard work. As a child, the schools of India sent home a report card every 30 days. You were rated according to how many students were in the class. For example, in a class of 30 you received a rating from 1 to 30. Indra’s grandfather insisted on academic excellence from his grandchildren and according to Indra, if you didn’t get a top 3 rating you might as well throw yourself in front of a bus rather than face her grandfather. So, needless to say, she studied icredibly hard all her life. Her parents also taught her “if you do a job, do it better than anybody else.” These are the values that Indra came to this country with. When she came to America, Indra had no safety net. If she failed, she failed. In an interiew for Dartmouth’s CEO Speaker Series, Indra said “The end of the month I would have $2 left over and if I had $5 I thought I had died and gone to heaven. I had no money guys, I was dirt poor.” While attending Yale, she worked as a receptionist from midnight to 5 a.m. to earn money. She had no money to buy clothes for job interviews and went to summer jobs wearing a traditional sari. In the same Dartmouth interview, Indra stated “You have got to work extremely hard to make it happen in this country for you.” “…If you want to reach the top of a company, I agree that it can only happen in the United States, but you have to start off saying that you have got to work twice as hard as your (male) counterparts.” “I know some of you are feeling tired just listening to me, but hey guys, that is reality. That is how some of us work our way up to the top.”

Indra attributes a lot of Pepsi’s success to it’s great employees. She believes that a company remains great when there is a strong competitor, like Coke. She believes if you have no competition, a company will atrophy. To keep a company running at top speed, you need to attract the best employees. This is PepsiCo’s greatest strength according to Indra. They have created a work environment to attract the best people. At PepsiCo employees can actually balance life and work. She views PepsiCo as an extended family and everybody at the company is there to help in any way possible. Indra says it is not unusual to find her 9-year old daughter in the office doing homework or having an after school fireside chat with 81 year old founder, Don Kendall. When Indra is traveling, her daughter will call the office to ask for permission to play Nintendo. The receptionist knows the routine and asks: “Have you finished your homework? Have you had your snack? OK, you can play Nintendo for 1/2 an hour”. She then leaves a voice message for Indra saying “I gave Tara permission to play Nintendo”. Unheard of in most corporations, but at PepsiCo everybody helps out.
Indra Nooyi has two daughters: one in college and one in grade school. She lives with her husband in Fairfax county, Conneticut. She finds time in her busy schedule to refine her skills on the electric guitar. She is proud of her Indian origin and attends many of PepsiCo events in her traditional sari. She believes that the corporate world appreciates people who are geniune and has made “Be Yourself” one of her life commands. In response to what life at the top is like, Indra has said “It is not easy up there. Just keep that in mind.”
You can be sure we will, Indra!

Good One - A BEAUTIFUL STORY

A little boy went to a telephone booth which was at the cash counter of a  store and dialed a number.
The store-owner observed and listened to the  conversation: 
 
Boy                : "Lady, Can you give me the job of cutting your lawn? 
Woman         : (at the other end of the phone line) "I  already have someone to cut my lawn." 
Boy                : "Lady, I will cut your lawn for half the price than
 the person who cuts your lawn now." 
Woman         : I'm very satisfied with the person who is  presently cutting my lawn. 
Boy                : (with more perseverance) "Lady, I'll even sweep the floor  and the stairs of your house for free.
Woman         : No, thank you. 
 
 With a smile on his face, the little  boy replaced the receiver. The store-owner, who was listening to all this,  walked over to the boy. 


Store Owner       : "Son... I like  your attitude; I like that positive spirit and would like to offer you a  job." 
Boy                      : "No thanks, 
Store Owner       :  But you were really pleading for one.
Boy                      : No Sir, I was just  checking my performance at the job I already have. I am the one who is  working for that lady I was talking to!" 

 This is called
"Self  Appraisal"

Lallooji applied for job in Microsoft in USA....

Hello…
Lallooji applied for job in Microsoft in USA …!!! … enjoy reading…

cid:1.771383096@web39502.mail.mud.yahoo.com
Laloo Prasad sent his Bio Data - to apply for a post in Microsoft Corporation, USA.
A few days later he got this reply:


cid:2.771383096@web39502.mail.mud.yahoo.com

Dear Mr. Laloo Prasad,
You do not meet our requirements. Please do not send any further correspondence.
No phone call shall be entertained.

Thanks
Bill Gates


cid:3.771383096@web39502.mail.mud.yahoo.com
Laloo prasad jumped with joy on receiving this reply.
He arranged a press conference : "Bhaiyon aur Behno, aap ko jaan kar khushi hogee ki hum ko Amereeca mein naukri mil gayee hai."
Everyone was delighted. Laloo prasad continued...... "Ab hum aap sab ko apnaa appointment Letter padkar sunaongaa ? par letter angreeze main hai - isliyen saath-saath Hindi main translate bhee karoonga.


cid:4.771383096@web39502.mail.mud.yahoo.com
Dear Mr. Laloo Prasad ----- Pyare Laloo prasad bhaiyya
You do not meet -----
aap to miltay hee naheen ho
our requirement ----- humko to zaroorat hai
Please do not send any further correspondence -----
ab Letter vetter bhejne ka kaouno zaroorat nahee.
No phone call ----- phoonwa ka bhee zaroorat nahee hai

shall be entertained -----
bahut khaatir kee jayegi
Thanks -----
aapkaa bahut bahut dhanyavad
Bill Gates ---- Tohar Bilva
  

FAKT MAITRI - Nikhalllllllll & Niswarthiiiiiiii

तुझ्या रुपात मन कैद माझे झाले. तो कविता वाचत होता.
"गप रे" ति वैतगली होति. जरा सिरीयस बन. २ वर्षे झालीत..बाबा मागे लागलेत लग्नासाठी..
माझा हो कळव.. तो हसत म्हणाला..अन काय कळवणार? तुला ना नोकरी,ना काहि व्यवसाय. अरे लग्न म्हणजे गंमत नाहि.
अग गंमतच आहे. लग्न म्हणजे सहजिवन, प्रेम, एक मेकात आडकण.लग्न म्हणजे संलग्न.
वेडा आहेस. अरे लग्न म्हणजे संसार, म्हणजे घर, दुध, किराणा, मुल, म्हणजे पैसा..ति म्हणाली
हातात हात तुझा, अन तुझी साथ. पैसा येइल. येतो. तो म्हणाला
पैसा म्हणजे परसातल प्राजक्ताच झाड नाहि. हालवल कि फुलांनी आंगण भरुन जात..तिन फटकारल..

अग पण, तो बोलायच्या आतच ति म्हणाली.. पैसा कि प्रेम हा वाद विवाद कालबाह्य आहे..
प्रेमाच्या जागी प्रेम आहे, अन पैसा त्याच्या जागि.तु मल खुप आवडतोस.. पण तु मला विचार करुन निर्णय दे.
तिन अल्टिमेटम दिला..


१५ ऑगस्ट चा दिवस होता आज खिशात पैसे होते. दिवस तिच्या बरोबर मजेत घालवायचा होता.त्यान तिला फोन केला.
बर झाल, फोन केलास,मला पण तुझ्याशी बोलायच आहे.ति म्हणाली.
नो प्रोब्लेम.. ताज मधे भेटु. काय?.. ति उडालीच.


ताज च्या थंडगार वातावरणात, ति सुखावलि होति. मग काय ठरल?.तिन विषयाला हात घातला.
तो बोलतच नव्हता. मी थांबु शकत नाहि. हि आपली शेवटची भेट.. तिच्या बोलण्याला धार होति..


तो आतुन तुटत चालला होता..प्लिज.. अरे प्लिज काय? सारच कठीण आहे.ति म्हणाली. मी निघते?
 ..प्लीज थांब, मला एक संधी दे..तो म्हणाला.तु फक्त एक वर्ष दे मला, तुल पाहिजे तेवढा पैसा देतो…तो म्हणाला.


ति खळखळुन हसली." वेडा रे"अरे पैसा म्हणजे?…
आय नो.. त्यान वाक्य तोडल."किति पैसे लागतात संसाराला?
लाखो रुपये ति म्हणाली
..ठीक आहे. एक डिल.तो म्हणाला. आपण पुढच्या १५ ऑगस्ट ला आपण इथच, ताज मधे,संध्याकाळी. ७ ला भेटु.
अन काय करु..तिन विचारल..
मी त्या दिवशी तुझ्या पायावर ७५ लाख रुपये ओतिल…तुला संसारा साठी.


त्या चित्रपटांत हिरो हिरॉइन ला नोटांनी अंघोळ घालतो तशी.अंघोळ घालीन…तो हसत म्हणाला.
"मॅड आहेस." पण म्हणुनच तु मला आवडतो.ति..
पण वचन दे, वाट पहाशील म्हणुन.. तो म्हणाला.
ठिक आहे, पण ७५ रुपये तरी आणशील अस वाटत नाहि. ति हासली. …..
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ठिक आहे, पण ७५ रुपये तरी आणशील अस वाटत नाहि. ति हासली.

१५ ऑगस्ट.. तो तिचि ६ वाज ल्या पासुनच वाट पहात होता. तेच टेबल होत, मागच्या वर्षीच, ति ये‌इल? तो अस्वस्थ होता
७ वाजायला आले होते, अन तेवढ्यात ति आत येताना दिसली. तिच्याशी नजरानजर होतच त्यान हात हलवला.
हाश हूश करत ति समोरच्या खुर्चीवर बसली.


कशी आहेस? फार गरम होत आहे. पहिल पाणी पिते. म्हणत उठुन ति त्याच्या समोरच्या ग्लास घ्यायल वाकली.
ति वाकली असताना, त्याला ब्ला‌उज मधे लपवलेल्या मंगळसुत्रचा पदर दिसला.
अग मी मागवतो म्हणेपर्यंत तिन ग्लास तोंन्डाला लावला होता.

अरे फार पाणी पाणी झाल होत.. हं आता बोल.
काय बोलु? तुच सांग. तिच्याकड बघत तो म्हणाला.
मग काय? कुठे आहे ७५ लाख? ति हसत म्हणाली..
त्याचा चेहेरा पड्ला होता., नाहि जमल, तु म्हणालीच तेच खर. ७५ लाख काय ७५ रु जमले नाहि. पैसा मिळवण कठिण आहे..


जा‌उ देत, मला माहित होत, ति समजावणीच्या स्वरांत म्हणाली.
मल पण तसच वाटत होते. पण म्ह्टल तुला शब्द दिला होता…
तो बघत होता..अजुन काय? पडलेल्या चेहे~यानि तो म्हणाला.
सांगु ति म्हणालि.. अरे माझ लग्न झाल, घरचे मागे लगलेच होते. तो बॅन्केत आहे, १ बेडरुम च घर आहे… तुझ अस.. ति म्हणाली. सॉरी..


तुझ खर आहे., तु ठीकच केल, माझ्याबरोबर…. वायाच गेल असत. तो म्हणाला..
ठीक आहे. मी निघते, तुला आता अस भेटण बर नाहि…ति.

बरोबर आहे.
निघते.. ति म्हणाली.. तो तिच्या पाठमो~या आकृति कडे बघत होता..


तो बराच वेळ तो बसुन होता. सार संपल होत.
रुम च्या नोकरानि टॅक्सीत सामान भरल..
सर कुठे? टॅक्सी ड्रायव्हर ने विचारले.
सहारा एयर पोर्ट. ईंटर नॅशनल टर्मीनल.



टॅक्सी वेगात चालली होति,
गार हवेच्या सपक्यान डोक शांत होत होत.
विमान तळावर टॅक्सी थांबली,
त्यान ट्रॉलीत लगेज भरल.व भाड देवुन तो निघाला,


सर,टॅक्सी ड्रायव्हर ने हाक मारली,
सर, तुमची बॅग राहिली आहे,
त्यान टॅक्सी ड्रायव्हर कड बघितल, अन म्हणाला
बॅग तुला राहु देत, त्यात ७५ लाख रुपये आहेत.
नाहितरी, मला आता त्याचा काहिच उपयोग नाहि,


ड्रायव्हर बराच वेळ त्याच्या पाठमो~या आकृति कडे बघत होता

एक रोप..-. प्रेमाचं.

कॉलेजमध्ये सर्व जण करतात तसे त्यानंही बरेच उद्योग केले. पोरींना भरपूर त्रास दिला. सरांची नक्कल केली. कॅंटीनचे पैसे बुडवले. "फर्स्ट डे फर्स्ट शो' पाहिले. दर महिन्याला त्याच्या अंगावर नवा शर्ट असायचा. तो नेहमी
म्हणायचा. "जन्माला आलोय तर फुल्ल ऐष करणार, प्रेमाबिमात नाही पडणार' त्यानं
त्याच्या बाईकरवही "आय हेट गर्ल्स' असंच लिहिलं होतं. आई-वडिलांचा एकुलता एक मुलगा.
त्यामुळं लाडातच मोठा झालेला. शिवाय त्याच्या सोसायटीत भरपूर मुली. त्यामुळे
मुलींचं त्याला तसं काही सोयरसुतक नव्हतंच. पोरींशी बिनधास्त बोलायचा. अभ्यासात
हुशार नव्हता; पण खेळाची कमालीची आवड होती त्याला. कायम खिदळत असायचा. पण... पण आज
त्याच्या चेहऱ्यावरचं हसू कुठल्या कुठं पळून गेलंय. तो एका मुलीच्या प्रेमात पडला
होता. गोरीपान आणि देखणी मुलगी होती ती. कसलाही विचार न करता त्यानं तिला बिनधास्त
प्रपोज केलं होतं. ती होस्टेलला राहायला होती. सहा महिने तो तिच्या मागं लागला
होता.

खरं प्रेम केलं होतं त्यानं. त्यामुळं त्या मुलीनंही होकार दिला. त्याचा स्वभाव निर्मळ होता. पण तो आई-बाबांना खूप घाबरायचा. लाडात वाढला असला, तरी
त्याच्यावर आई-बाबांचा धाक होता. त्यामुळं त्यानं प्रेमाविषयी त्यांना काही
सांगितलं नव्हतं. त्याची हिंमतच होत नव्हती. तो तिच्यासोबत नेहमी खडकवासल्याला
फिरायला जायचा. खडकवासल्याच्या पुढे पानशेत रस्त्याशेजारी एका ठिकाणी ते गप्पा मारत
बसायचे. एकदा ते असेच फिरायला निघाले तेव्हा त्याच्या प्रेयसीनं एका कॅरीबॅगमध्ये
छोटंसं रोपटं घेतलं होतं. आपण बसतो ना, तिथं मी हे रोप लावणार, अशी तिची कल्पना
ऐकून तो पोट धरून हसला होता. त्याच्या हसण्यानं ती रुसूनही बसली होती. कसंबसं तिचा
रुसवा घालवत दोघं त्या ठिकाणी गेले. दोघांनी तिथं रोपटं लावलं. सोबत पाण्याची बाटली
होती. त्या रोपट्याला पाणीही घातलं. आठवड्यात एकदा तरी त्यांची तिथं चक्कर
व्हायचीच. दर वेळी ते दोघं त्या रोपट्याशेजारी गप्पा मारत बसायचे. एके दिवशी ती
गावी निघाली. तो आईसोबत मावशीकडे गेला होता. त्यामुळं त्या दोघांना भेटता आलं नाही.
शिवाय ती दोन दिवसांनी परत येणार होतीच. त्यामुळं नको येऊ भेटायला, असं तिनंच
सांगितलं होतं. घरी पोचल्यावर फोन कर असं सांगून त्यानं फोन ठेवला. तिचा फोन आला
नाही, म्हणून त्यानं फोन केला; पण कुणीच उचलला नाही. घरी गेल्यानं मला विसरली
वाटतं, असा राग मनात धरून त्यानंही परत तिला फोन केला नाही. दुर्दैवानं दुसऱ्या
दिवशी मला समजलं, तिचा अपघातात मृत्यू झाल्याचं. त्याला ही बातमी कशी सांगायची तेच
सुचत नव्हतं. खूप धाडस करून मी त्याला सांगितलं. हळव्या मनाचा होता तो. जागेवरच
खाली बसला अन्‌ मोठमोठ्यानं रडायला लागला. आवरणार तरी कसं त्याला? माझ्या गळ्यात
पडून रडू लागला. क्षणाचाही विचार न करता त्यानं गाडी काढली. मला पाठीमागं बसवलं
अन्‌ आम्ही तिच्या गावाकडं गेलो; पण काही उपयोग नाही. सर्व काही उरकलेलं होतं. तिथं
त्यानं स्वत:ला सावरलं. तो तिथं रडला असता, तर तिथल्या लोकांना संशय आला असता.
आम्ही तिच्या बाबांना भेटलो अन्‌ अर्ध्या तासात माघारी फिरलो.

मला वाटलं, आम्ही घरी येतोय. पण आमची गाडी खडकवासल्याकडं निघाली होती. मी काही बोललो नाही.
पानशेत रस्त्याशेजारी त्यानं गाडी थांबवली अन्‌ एका झाडाला पकडून तो मोठ्यानं रडू
लागला. त्यानंतर दररोज तो तिथं जात होता अन्‌ झाडापाशी बसून मुसूमुसू रडत होता. आठ
महिन्यांपूर्वी त्याच्यावर दु:खाचा डोंगर कोसळला होता. पण आता तो हळूहळू सावरतोय.
आता त्याचा स्वभावही बदलला आहे. एखाद्या शांत मुलाप्रमाणं तो वागतोय. त्याच्या
आई-बाबांना याविषयी काहीच माहिती नाही. तो घरात काही बोलतही नाही. फक्त रात्रीच्या
वेळी तिनं त्याला दिलेली लेटर वाचतो. तिनं दिलेलं गुलाबाचं फूल आता सुकलंय. ते एकटक
बघतो अन्‌ उशीत तोंड खुपसून रडतो. तो म्हणतो, ""ते झाडच आता माझं सर्वस्व आहे. त्या
झाडाच्या पानाफुलांत मी तिला शोधतो. लोक झाडावर प्रेम करा असं म्हणतात; पण मी प्रेम
करणाऱ्या प्रत्येकाला सांगीन, की तुम्हीही असं एखादं रोपटं लावा. तुमची "लव्ह
स्टोरी' माझ्यासारखी अर्धवट राहणार नाही. खरं प्रेम असेल, तर ही निःस्वार्थी रोपं
खूप काही देतात. मी स्वत: हे अनुभवतोय.''
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म्हणून रोपं लावा... झाडे वाचवा... पर्यावरणाचे रक्षण करणे आपल्याच हाती आहे...
त्यामुळे भरपूर प्रेम करा... भरपूर झाडे लावा... मग खडकवासला आसो कि सोमेश्वर... प्रेम ते प्रेमच
झाडावर करा किंवा मुलींवर... पण रोप लावायचेच...



Chetan Bhagats Inspiration Speech

Sparks


 Speech given at the orientation program for the new batch of MBA students

Good Morning everyone and thank you for giving me this chance to speak to you. This day is about you. You, who have come to this college, leaving the comfort of your homes (or in some cases discomfort), to become something in your life. I am sure you are excited. There are few days in human life when one is truly elated.  The first day in college is one of them.  When you were getting ready today, you felt a tingling in your stomach. What would the auditorium be like, what would the teachers be like, who are my new classmates – there is so much to be curious about. I call this excitement, the spark within you that makes you feel truly alive today. Today I am going to talk about keeping the spark shining. Or to put it another way, how to be happy most, if not all the time.

Where do these sparks start? I think we are born with them. My 3-year old twin boys have a million sparks. A little Spiderman toy can make them jump on the bed. They get thrills from creaky swings in the park. A story from daddy gets them excited. They do a daily countdown for birthday party – several months in advance – just for the day they will cut their own birthday cake.

I see students like you, and I still see some sparks. But when I see older people, the spark is difficult to find. That means as we age, the spark fades. People whose spark has faded too much are dull, dejected, aimless and bitter. Remember Kareena in the first half of Jab We Met vs the second half? That is what happens when the spark is lost.   So how to save the spark?

Imagine the spark to be a lamp’s flame. The first aspect is nurturing – to give your spark the fuel, continuously. The second is to guard against storms.

To nurture, always have goals. It is human nature to strive, improve and achieve full potential. In fact, that is success. It is what is possible for you. It isn’t any external measure – a certain cost to company pay package, a particular car or house.

Most of us are from middle class families. To us, having material landmarks is success and rightly so. When you have grown up where money constraints force everyday choices, financial freedom is a big achievement. But it isn’t the purpose of life. If that was the case, Mr. Ambani would not show up for work. Shah Rukh Khan would stay at home and not dance anymore. Steve Jobs won’t be working hard to make a better iPhone, as he sold Pixar for billions of dollars already. Why do they do it? What makes them come to work everyday? They do it because it makes them happy. They do it because it makes them feel alive Just getting better from current levels feels good. If you study hard, you can improve your rank. If you make an effort to interact with people, you will do better in interviews. If you practice, your cricket will get better. You may also know that you cannot become Tendulkar, yet. But you can get to the next level. Striving for that next level is important.

Nature designed with a random set of genes and circumstances in which we were born. To be happy, we have to accept it and make the most of nature’s design. Are you? Goals will help you do that. I must add, don’t just have career or academic goals. Set goals to give you a balanced, successful life. I use the word balanced before successful. Balanced means ensuring your health, relationships, mental peace are all in good order.

There is no point of getting a promotion on the day of your breakup. There is no fun in driving a car if your back hurts. Shopping is not enjoyable if your mind is full of tensions.

You must have read some quotes – Life is a tough race, it is a marathon or whatever. No, from what I have seen so far, life is one of those races in nursery school, where you have to run with a marble in a spoon kept in your mouth. If the marble falls, there is no point coming first. Same with life, where health and relationships are the marble. Your striving is only worth it if there is harmony in your life. Else, you may achieve the success, but this spark, this feeling of being excited and alive, will start to die.

One last thing about nurturing the spark – don’t take life seriously. One of my yoga teachers used to make students laugh during classes. One student asked him if these jokes would take away something from the yoga practice. The teacher said – don’t be serious, be sincere. This quote has defined my work ever since. Whether its my writing, my job, my relationships or any of my goals. I get thousands of opinions on my writing everyday. There is heaps of praise, there is intense criticism. If I take it all seriously, how will I write? Or rather, how will I live? Life is not to be taken seriously, as we are really temporary here. We are like a pre-paid card with limited validity. If we are lucky, we may last another 50 years. And 50 years is just 2,500 weekends. Do we really need to get so worked up? It’s ok, bunk a few classes, goof up a few interviews, fall in love. We are people, not programmed devices.

I’ve told you three things – reasonable goals, balance and not taking it too seriously that will nurture the spark. However, there are four storms in life that will threaten to completely put out the flame. These must be guarded against. These are disappointment, frustration, unfairness and loneliness of purpose.

Disappointment will come when your effort does not give you the expected return. If things don’t go as planned or if you face failure. Failure is extremely difficult to handle, but those that do come out stronger. What did this failure teach me? is the question you will need to ask. You will feel miserable. You will want to quit, like I wanted to when nine publishers rejected my first book. Some IITians kill themselves over low grades – how silly is that? But that is how much failure can hurt you. But it’s life. If challenges could always be overcome, they would cease to be a challenge. And remember – if you are failing at something, that means you are at your limit or potential. And that’s where you want to be.

Disappointment’ s cousin is  Frustration, the second storm.  Have you ever been frustrated? It happens when things are stuck. This is especially relevant in India. From traffic jams to getting that job you deserve, sometimes things take so long that you don’t know if you chose the right goal. After books, I set the goal of writing for Bollywood, as I thought they needed writers. I am called extremely lucky, but it took me five years to get close to  a release. Frustration saps excitement, and turns your initial energy into something negative, making you a bitter person. How did I deal with it? A realistic assessment of the time involved – movies take a long time to make even though they are watched quickly, seeking a certain enjoyment in the process rather than the end result – at least I was learning how to write scripts, having a side plan – I had my third book to write and even something as simple as pleasurable distractions in your life – friends, food, travel can help you overcome it. Remember, nothing is to be taken seriously. Frustration is a sign somewhere, you took it too seriously.

Unfairness – this is hardest to deal with, but unfortunately that is how our country works. People with connections, rich dads, beautiful faces, pedigree find it easier to make it – not just in Bollywood, but everywhere. And sometimes it is just plain luck. There are so few opportunities in India, so many stars need to be aligned for you to make it happen. Merit and hard work is not always linked to achievement in the short term, but the long term correlation is high, and ultimately things do work out. But realize, there will be some people luckier than you. In fact, to have an opportunity to go to college and understand this speech in English means you are pretty damm lucky by Indian standards. Let’s be grateful for what we have and get the strength to accept what we don’t. I have so much love from my readers that other writers cannot even imagine it. However, I don’t get literary praise. It’s ok. I don’t look like Aishwarya Rai, but I have two boys who I think are more beautiful than her. It’s ok. Don’t let unfairness kill your spark.

Finally, the last point that can kill your spark is Isolation. As you grow older you will realize you are unique. When you are little, all kids want Ice cream and Spiderman. As you grow older to college, you still are a lot like your friends. But ten years later and you realize you are unique. What you want, what you believe in, what makes you feel, may be different from even the people closest to you. This can create conflict as your goals may not match with others. And you may drop some of them. Basketball captains in college invariably stop playing basketball by the time they have their second child. They give up something that meant so much to them. They do it for their family. But in doing that, the spark dies. Never, ever make that compromise. Love yourself first, and then others.

There you go. I’ve told you the four thunderstorms – disappointment, frustration, unfairness and isolation. You cannot avoid them, as like the monsoon they will come into your life at regular intervals. You just need to keep the raincoat handy to not let the spark die.

I welcome you again to the most wonderful  years of your life. If someone gave me the choice to go back in time, I will surely choose college. But I also hope that ten years later as well, your eyes will shine the same way as they do today. That you will Keep the Spark alive, not only through college, but through the next 2,500 weekends. And I hope not just you, but my whole country will keep that spark alive, as we really need it now more than any moment in history. And there is something cool about saying – I come from the land of a billion sparks.
Thank You.